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The subject of slave training is one that has gotten a great deal of attention, especially in recent years as the M/s lifestyle has spread increasingly from the gay leather community into the straight community. Most of the apocryphal “Old Guard” training focused on developing instant, unconditional obedience to a Master’s orders. This is because the origins were heavily influenced by the soldiers coming home after World War II and so it was predicated heavily on a military model. In the present community, more attention seems to be focused on goals that have broadened considerably. Especially among straight couples, the desire is to have the slave do more than just become functional at being a better servant. Quite often the goal is to have her (for convenience I will focus the rest of this article on M/f couples although much of it will apply to other types of M/s relationships as well) become more functional in broad areas of her life.
As it happens, this is quite often the same goal shared by psychotherapists but again, in recent years, the goal of therapy has become more than just overcoming specific deficits into becoming a generally happy, well functioning human being in all or at least most areas of her life. It is not at all uncommon for slaves (and again here I am speaking only of female slaves) to have suffered tremendous abuse and trauma in their past lives. As it happens, there seem to be some clear indications (although there is no formal research to support this as far as I know) that this is not related to them becoming slaves. Rather it is simply that a substantial portion of the women in the world have been subjected to this and the proportion seems to be the same with submissive women and slaves.
One of the early goals, then, for many Masters is to help the slave overcome these traumas. Often there are efforts to build up her self-esteem and other kinds of well-meaning palliative care. In my observation, for a woman who is drawn to being a slave, the M/s relationship itself seems to help a lot with this. In psychotherapy we describe this as “thriving”. It means going beyond just relieving the pain.
Because of this, I believe that the term “slave training” is a misnomer and a more accurate and descriptive term would be “slave development”. While a comprehensive treatment of this subject would certainly require a book, I would like to look at a couple of aspects of slave development that are extremely useful.
