Whether you’ve never tried BDSM or you’re fairly experienced in BDSM, this guide will walk you through BDSM from vanilla to the most brutal things you can imagine! I’ve seen my fair share of BDSM related videos, photos and blogs and I’ve heard so many stories that I knew a guide like this would be beneficial for the internet.
What Is BDSM?
BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. If you’re reading this, you’ve already probably heard about it, but it’s always good to go over the basics. BDSM is actually a variety of sexual acts performed by two or more partners, increasing one sense and sometimes depriving another person of other senses. It’s not for everyone and you shouldn’t pressure your partner in trying out some things BDSM related if they aren’t interested in it at all.
BDSM is becoming more and more popular but many still make the common mistake of thinking that BDSM must include pain and humiliation. That’s completely untrue and BDSM can actually be very gentle, or vanilla as some say. Even putting a blindfold on your partner is considered a BDSM act, but it doesn’t include any type of pain, does it? BDSM is actually all about trust between partners.
The Best Way To Spice Up Your Sex Life With BDSM
If you and your partner haven’t tried BDSM before, there are numerous things you can do to find out if you and your partner are into it. One of the easiest things to do is to use a blindfold or simply tie up each other. Even though you may think it’s too simple, it’s a great way to see if you’re comfortable with giving yourself completely to your partner and trusting them. Once you’ve tried this, you can move up the BDSM ladder and try light whipping and similar things.
The next tip is only for partners with an open mind and it would include hiring a professional to help you and your partner start your BDSM journey. If you’re single and want to explore the possibilities of BDSM, hiring an escort is also a good idea. Before you make your decision, you should check out UK escort reviews so you can make the right decision when it comes to hiring an escort. Some escorts are experienced in all sorts of BDSM and it’s probably the best and easiest way to engage in BDSM with someone who knows exactly what they’re doing.
If you’re just starting with BDSM, make sure you take it slow. Skipping right to the most brutal forms of BDSM can be a huge mistake, especially if you haven’t tried BDSM before!
Vanilla VS Hardcore BDSM
BDSM is very complex and is a subject I could write about for hours. If you don’t like extreme things when it comes to sex—like using monster dildos, nipple clamps, medicinal needles and whips—it doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy BDSM. There are a lot of things you can do which are considered BDSM and don’t include any type of pain. This sort of BDSM is called light BDSM or vanilla BDSM. If you don’t want to hire a professional, there are a lot of free sex games you can play with your partner with things you can find in your own apartment. One of the lightest forms of BDSM is using blindfolds and it’s a great way to do BDSM with your partner. Even something as simple as a blindfold can make a huge difference in the experience you have that I definitely recommend you try it! You can also use a rope or anything else to tie up your partner or let your partner tie you up. Taking away the possibility to move will make you vulnerable but will lighten up your partner’s imagination and you’ll definitely feel like never before!
When it comes to the more extreme forms of BDSM, sex toys and other equipment are usually used. It can include dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, whips, sex swings, and other equipment that can be used to control you or your partner. Before you decide to engage in extreme BDSM action, make sure you and your partner are both on the same page about it. You wouldn’t want to experience something you’re not ready for, nor would you want to do something to your partner if they don’t want to experience something like that. It’s very important to talk about the things you think you’d enjoy and go through the entire process with your partner. Only that way can you both enjoy your new hobby completely.
Where To Find BDSM Equipment And Sex Toys
If you’ve ever watched porn that includes BDSM, you must have seen at least one sex toy or piece of equipment you don’t know where to find. If you’re in the UK, you can find a huge number of sex shops where you can find all the sex toys you can imagine. In London, Soho is the place to go if you want to find the biggest number of sex shops that offer a wide variety of toys and equipment. If you’re a little shy and don’t want anyone to know that you’re interested in kinky things, the best bet is to go online and find an online sex shop. You can even find a bigger selection of sex toys and equipment online from certified sellers and the best thing is that almost all online shops offer discreet packaging and discreet payments. This means that no one will know what you bought and how kinky you actually are. Online shops actually offer great information when it comes to using the equipment they sell, and it’s actually common to come across free local sex ads there. It’s probably not the smartest way to meet someone, but can be a great way to get into the BDSM community!
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